The dating game

So as I partake in one of my favorite pastimes - eating bad food while watching The Biggest Loser - I've found myself reviewing the past few weeks of dating life.

First, I want to know if there's any truth at all to the saying "guys like it when a girl asks them out." i know it's not an actual 'saying', just like most of the phrases on Wheel of Fortune aren't actually phrases, but I want to know the truth. The other day I told a guy friend that I had emailed a new guy online first - as in I didn't wait for him to maybe think about emailing me first - and my friend looked at me like I was crazy. I don't know if he was just shocked that i had the cajones to do it or if it's just so not true and I've become crazy dating girl...as opposed to crazy dog girl.

[sidenote: I've decided I can no longer be considered crazy dog girl just b/c I let the pup sleep on the couch because I've heard of at least two guys who let their dogs also sleep on the bed. woohoo! I also have to gve a shout-out to Gracie Lou for running, literally, downstairs and making it outside before getting sick tonight. That's my girl!]

So anyway, I'd be interested to hear thoughts on girls asking guys out/emailing a guy first.

Next, I haven't heard from the trapeze artist which is a good thing. I don't mean that in a mean way, I just didn't know how to do the transition to friends without waiting for him to try asking me out again. Last week we were emailing, and I was actually busy and couldn't email, so I wasn't writing novels, and apparently that was enough to not hear back from him.

Moving on, I had a coffee date on Saturday with a new guy. And no, I don't know why I'm turning into a dating machine. It was actually a "date" as opposed to a "meet and greet" which is what I usually call a first meeting. However, in this case we had an actual meal hence it's been decided that makes it a 'date.' Anyway, the guy was very nice. He's a professor/scientist guy, very laid back but holy hell the guy moves slow as molasses - he takes a while to return emails, which would be okay if he were super busy but I don't get the sense that his schedule is all that packed, um especially when he tells me he watched the inaguration all day long. It also took him a while to ask me out again when I'd already told him I'd do something, and the guy is all about booking way out. I guess maybe he doesn't do things on weeknights, but I'm not looking to join another "out till dawn" group.

My next rant is about the movie coming out, He's just not that in to you. While I have read excerpts from the book, and some offer good advice, what about all the dumbass guys who are just as crazy obsessive about girls? I know there's another book that's supposed to offer the other side, but really, it should be called He/She's just not that in to you. I find it ridiculously offensive and annoying, and I'm not talking annoying like the blaspheme that is the Shopoholic movie - hello? She's British, people. How the hell are they going to make a sequel - Shopoholic takes Manhattan - if she's already there? I digress. I suppose the answer to He's just not that in to you is that us womenfolk are secure enough to try and fix ourselves, thus the self-help book is targeted to us. Too bad the people buying it aren't secure enough to stop calling the loser they went out with who clearly doesn't want to go out with them again. Needless to say I won't be seeing this movie...unless someone tells me that there's also a guy in the movie who's a clueless loser like they depict the women to be. Hmm, anger anyone?


okay gracie just got sick again so I'm going to have table this post for later...